Sometimes change is imposed upon us. We lose a job or a place to live, someone breaks up with us. We all know how those kinds of changes happen. In those cases, we need courage to face the loss and whatever’s next. Then there are the changes we CHOOSE and those also take courage. Why? …
Humans are incredible storytellers! We have been, since before the written word, able to re-enact for others our adventures. We have been able to imagine outrageous, unbelievable things and then accomplish them (I think of the original Star Trek and how many of those imagined tech possibilities came TRUE). And all because we tell stories …
I think abandonment issues come in so many forms, it is unusual not to have any. A parent or caregiver with an addiction issue, divorced or deceased parents, a workaholic, someone who is shut down and emotionally unavailable, an abusive or neglectful parent, even someone who isn’t home because of practical reasons like shift work …
One of the most common questions I’ve had posed to me as a coach is “Can I save my relationship?” The answer is always “Yes – but you need to be sure you actually WANT to.” Wanting to save a relationship in trouble is a natural response. The relationship is with someone we love, have …
There are two types of people in a relationship; Collectors and Investors.
Collectors WANT something from you; it might be romance, intimacy, friendship but they want something that you have to offer. They want to vent to you, have you listen, appreciate and witness their lives and when they’re done with you, they put you on the shelf. Not a great feeling;believe me; especially once you’ve discovered your own worth. That’s when these types of relationships start to flounder, because as long as you DON’T know what you deserve to have in a relationship, you can subsist here for quite a long, lonely time.
The most common limiting belief I come across is “I’m not enough”. The root cause usually stems from childhood and always involves the judgement of others and frequently the burden of shame as a result. While a good therapist will help you process the past trauma, a good coach will help you move into a …
“Healthy boundaries”. Everyone talks about them. We know what they are. We know we should have them. We know that if we make them, we will be honouring our needs, letting people know we deserve respect, and therefore they will help us feel better. Except that sometimes, they don’t. Sometimes, we actually aren’t creating boundaries, …
I was BROKE, living off my credit cards and just hoping the car would make it through the winter. It was utterly exhausting being overwhelmed with the burden of finding a new job and home. But here’s the thing…when we need it, a teacher or teaching shows up. So, it did.
What to do? Consider risk management, who our choices affect, and perhaps we can embrace a more mature attitude toward developing relationships. Something that looks a lot more like…COURTING. Yep…the age old way to get to know someone without putting your hands on them. What a concept, right?
If you’re like me, you might be dealing with chronic physical, emotional or mental pain on a fairly regular basis. How do we hear that pain? Do we hear it as a challenge? As something that has to be beaten? The enemy? A threat? Do you ever thank your pain for doing it’s job? I mean, after all, that’s why we have it.
