When I married my husband, Greg, we were monogamous, but we hadn’t always been. I found him on OKCupid following the end of a seven year relationship with my third husband. Greg was in a polyamorous marriage, that ended shortly after we started dating. I had been consensually non-monogamous/polyamorous in other relationships in my life …
NOTE: Personally, I prefer the term “condition” to “illness” as it helps me feel less “ill”. For the purpose of this piece, I’ll use both as for many people they feel more in alignment with “illness”. For the purpose of awareness, please note, these include physical and mental health conditions. Being in a relationship with …
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When we are in the throes of NEW RELATIONSHIP ENERGY, we are actually, and quite literally, high; as if we’re on drugs. Our brain chemistry is affected, with more “happiness-inducing” chemicals being released regularly. And it can last 6 months to TWO YEARS. It’s designed to keep us together with a partner long enough to …
I do a lot of support work online for the Polyamorous and Consensually Non-monogamous communities. This body of this was written in response to a post (see graphic below) that received a lot of enthusiastic support, and while the concept may be true to an extent, it does miss the mark for me. Adversity and …
Are you a control freak? Maybe you desire control over your kids, your relationship or your job. So you make rules, right? Rules can be very enticing. They can feel like you are getting what you want, which is the people in your life are behaving as you’d like them to. Even if it’s because …
I don’t see much value from the notion of “in order to love another you must first love yourself”. It’s a cute catch phrase and I get it’s intention is to promote work on self-esteem and worth (which is entirely valid and I don’t intend to dispute its importance), but I actually see this as …
We all want acceptance, belonging; want to be attractive to someone, desired, valued. We strive to be smart, heathy, stylish so that another human will WANT us. We spend hours putting together a dating profile, or choosing the right thing to wear on a first date, or reading up to get inspiration to keep the …
Who doesn’t want to speak the same language as their partner when it comes to intimacy? RIGHT? Sex can be a bit of hit and miss when you don’t understand how to connect and engage someone’s sex drive, before, during and after sex. If you know the Five Love Languages for yourself and your partner(s), …
