Leanne Million B.F.A., B.Ed.

Certified Life, Relationship, and Sexuality Coach 
EMPOWERED POLY Coaching Services

Category or Tag: Month: March 2023

Prioritizing a Partner is NOT Hierarchy

Prioritizing a Partner is NOT Hierarchy

The inherent assumption is that the status of “highest priority” in hierarchical relationships will remain permanently and never ever waver, which is, for most, unrealistic. And in practice is quite a powerful and sometimes inaccurate assumption. It can also feed harmful behaviours (VETO is an example) and ways of thinking of someone else as intrinsically LESS. Which is personally why I don’t practice hierarchy.

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After being 'poly-bombed' by my ex-wife and spending two years in a downright abusive situation I had some significant trauma attached to polyamory so when my girlfriend wanted to start dating other people it was somewhat difficult for me to get on board. Fortunately, I had seen some recommendations for Leanne (and Greg) in a support group I was a part of so I had a few sessions with her to see if she could help me work through some of the issues I was experiencing that traditional therapy wasn't really helping with. The sessions were great, she really gave me a number of really useful tools to help analyze and manage the feelings I was dealing with. She also helped me really examine what my boundaries are and how to effectively communicate them. She's been really great to work with and I highly recommend that anyone who is struggling meet with her to see if she can help.

Julie

Julie
Pennsylvania, USA