PolyPhoria
Welcome to my blog about my polyamorous journey over three and a half decades! PolyPhoria means "many states" and, as someone who's experienced MANY different dynamics, orientations and structures in my relationships, that really resonated. Here I share what I've learned, and am learning, about how to have healthier relationships with others and with myself!Weaponized Autonomy
You know, I'm a BIG advocate for personal autonomy - in ALL areas: bodily, emotionally, sexually, relationally, medically, politically. It's one of the things I have come to embrace and value late in life, and I even identify as a Relationship Autonomist (as my...
Prioritizing a Partner is NOT Hierarchy
Finding Balance in Polyamory
So, you're struggling because you feel overwhelmed by trying to meet the needs of your relationships? You love and care for them, but you're starting to see how you aren't leaving enough time to meet your own needs? You were okay with that in the beginning but now you...
Speaking Their Love Language: an Obligation or a Choice?
I wrote this in response to an online post which stated that learning a partner's love language was never intended for you to feel obligated to fill their needs in that way. The person posting went on to say, "If you tell me your love language as a means of MAKING me...
I Have Feelings
I have feelings. They are not easily hurt but they have been bruised too many times to count. They have learned to guard themselves. They have been taught that loving someone doesn't solve all problems. They have been shown that vulnerability often leads to fear,...
My Top 20 Tips for Great Group Sex
So, you've decided to dip your toes into group sex? OR you have before but are hoping to increase the odds of a positive experience? OR you just are curious AF? I've got you. Here are my Top 20 Tips for Great Group Sex! 1. Don't hoard someone's time and body (unless...
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“It was a real pleasure working with Leanne. She is very perceptive, direct, and intuitive. She is empathetic and looks at the whole situation through a compassionate lens. She put me at ease about some things that I was new to! And that helped me to feel more comfortable and confident in my romantic relationship. Leanne is a great expert in relationships and sexuality. I highly recommend her and would use her services again if the need arises.”
Sylvia
California, USA
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