Leanne Million B.F.A., B.Ed.

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The PolyPhoria Blog

Welcome to my blog about my polyamorous journey over three and a half decades! PolyPhoria means "many states" and, as someone who's experienced MANY different dynamics, orientations and structures in my relationships, that really resonated. Here I share what I've learned, and am learning, about how to have healthier relationships with others and with myself!
Weaponized Autonomy

Weaponized Autonomy

by | Nov 20, 2023 | , , , , , , , , , ,

First of all, yes, you are absolutely entitled ALWAYS to decide for yourself what you want to say and do. You have FULL CONTROL over that. That’s 100% true. AND you also have a responsibility as a human being to treat the people in your sphere well, SIMULTANEOUSLY as you exercise your autonomy.
Prioritizing a Partner is NOT Hierarchy

Prioritizing a Partner is NOT Hierarchy

by | Oct 15, 2023 | , , , , , , , ,

The inherent assumption is that the status of “highest priority” in hierarchical relationships will remain permanently and never ever waver, which is, for most, unrealistic. And in practice is quite a powerful and sometimes inaccurate assumption. It can also feed harmful behaviours (VETO is an example) and ways of thinking of someone else as intrinsically LESS. Which is personally why I don’t practice hierarchy.

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